The Pluses of an Intimate Gathering vs. A Large Affair
Here’s how to make the most of an intimate gathering compared to a larger affair and put together a breathtaking intimate luxe milestone birthday experience for your guests. The general rule for a big affair is to invest in the elements that bring about the atmosphere like flowers and wine. In an intimate celebration, you have the option to splurge on every single detail. Did you have your eye on some luxury plates that a larger party budget wouldn’t allow? This is the time to buy four or six of those plates, gift yourself, and make your china dreams come true. The same is true with investing in high-end table accessories, ordering your favorite flower that might not be in season, using bespoke invitations and menus, and hiring a chef to cook a decadent meal of all your favorite dishes. Can you see all the possibilities? It all starts with the star of the show: the table setting.
8 Key Elements of an Intimate Luxe Milestone Birthday Experience
1. Elegant Table Setting
Think of all the textures that exude luxury such as silk. velvet, and the glint of gold and incorporate them on your table. In this tablescape, we used a silky cream damask tablecloth, as a luxurious base. We then set each setting with Imari plates in different but complimentary patterns from Royal Crown Derby. We accompanied them with gold-rimmed dinner plates, and burnt orange charger plates both from Mottahedeh China. Gold flatware adds a lavish touch to create a luxurious look on this table
2. Candlelit Ambiance
Candles always add to the ambiance of a party and make everyone look beautiful. Add layers of candlelight by using pillar candles in conjunction with votive candles. We added a bit of moodiness and sophistication to the table by using black twist pillar candles and creamy-colored votive candles in gold-rimmed holders.
3. Sophisticated Glassware
4. Breathtaking Floral Centerpiece
A luxurious table is the place to display exquisite blooms. If you’ve always dreamed of having flowers such as David Austin roses or orchids, on your birthday table this is the time to go for it. In this tablescape, our goal was to maintain the feminine and luxurious feel of the table while giving a nod to the coming of Fall. We created a captivating centerpiece using white anemones, orange-yellow butterfly ranunculus, pink and coral dahlias, echinacea Cone flowers, pink astrantia, maroon foliage and added golden pears for a stunning visual display.
4. Add Name Cards and Menus
5. Intimacy and Personalization
The smaller guest list enables more meaningful interactions and personal connections. I’ve often either placed a card with three questions for my guest or pulled cards from a card deck called Table Topics, to start having more of a personal conversation and have them talk about their lives. I am always thrilled to find out something new about each one of my guests and this has even revealed unknown connections between them.
6. Gourmet Dining Experience
7. Thoughtful Party Favors
8. Capture Moments
My Aha Moment Regarding Milestone Birthdays:
“Aging is a privilege”, it has taken me a while to embrace the statement. For years in the past before a milestone birthday, I would unfurl the scroll of the long list of goals I was supposed to accomplish by that specific birthday. Knowing the type A girl that I am, you know the list was always mighty long. Instead of celebrating the wins, I focused on what I hadn’t yet accomplished. On my 40th birthday, my plan was to have dinner with my mother and sister at my favorite restaurant. Unbeknownst to me, my husband had planned a surprise birthday party and a few of my closest friends were patiently waiting outside my home in a limo. They were waiting to whisk me away for some birthday fun.
Let’s just say it took a lot of encouragement from my husband to get me off my negative mindset and to finally be able to reveal the surprise. I’ll never forget my turning point, as I entered the limo, one of my girlfriends put a crown on my head and a feathered boa on my neck. At that moment I thought, “Of all days, I could lean into the feeling of being a queen for the day. I had the privilege of living another year and the blessing of others cherishing my presence in their lives.” This is still one of my most memorable birthday celebrations.
So if you like me struggle with birthdays, put on your crown and your boa, and allow yourself to feel like a queen for the day and allow others to celebrate you. Let this beautiful table inspire you to celebrate your 40th,50th, and 60th+ birthday in beautiful style!
I hope this post has inspired you to create your own memorable milestone birthday experience. We would love to see what you create so make sure to tag us at @ivoryandnoire, #inspiredbyivoryandnoire.